When was the last time you looked yourself in the eyes in the mirror and told yourself "I love you" without feeling like its the hardest thing in the world to do?

When was the last time you knew without a doubt that God loves you and calls you His own?

When was the last time you truly knew what you want?

When was the last time you expressed what you desired to yourself, others and God without trying to control the outcome or feeling a sense of entitlement? Not what you think you should want or what would make everyone proud. Express the desires that light you up. The desires God planted in your heart before the world told you to be "practical".

When was the last time you asked for help and allowed yourself to receive from God, yourself and others without wondering "if I accept help, what will this cost me?" 

When was the last time you gave without feeling resentment, keeping score or wondering when it will be your time to receive?

When was the last time you stopped trying to achieve all the things to finally feel like you are valuable and worthy? To prove to people that you are somebody?

When was the last time you trusted God, yourself and the people around you enough to release control? When you stopped trying to manage (manipulate) people and outcomes? When you believed He's got you even when you can't see five steps ahead?

When was the last time you identified your feelings without your mind rushing in with rationalizations, explanations and justifications. When you regulated yourself without dismissing your feelings? When you were finally be honest with God, yourself and others about your emotions?

When was the last time you celebrated your wins consistently? When your inner critic stopped making you feel like shit every single time you miss a blind spot, make a mistake or repeat a pattern you thought you'd broken?

This is the work most people recovering from self-sacrifice never get to. Because it's easier to stay at the surface. Easier to just learn to say no and call it healed.

But you're not most people. You're here because you know there's more. You're ready to go deeper. You're ready to stop managing symptoms and start addressing identity-erasing roots that affect how you show up and love yourself and others.

That takes courage. Good thing God created you as a Pink Flamingo. You've got more courage than you know.

Own more of your pink? 
 

Your Pink Flamingo Dare:

On a scale of 1-5 (where 5 is great), rate how well you are doing in the above areas. All the areas you ranked a 4 and below are areas you're being invited to own your pink.

If you'd like to fast-track that process, reply "pink" to this email. The Pink Flamingo Club is the space for you to practice and master being the person who truly loves your neighbor AS yourself.

With pink flamingo love,

Chanel

How To Work With Me:

1. GET MY BOOK

Order my book In Search of the Pink Flamingo: Ditch the Expectations of Others, Own Your Voice, and Be Your Unusual Self

Click here to order it now!

"I've been called vocal my whole life, but not once did I ever feel like my voice belonged to me. I fell in love with myself and who I can be while reading this book. I found myself crying, contemplating things I've gone through and finally being at peace with several parts of my story. I am finding my pink flamingo – I found her in the pages of this book and so can you." 

— KH

2. WORK WITH ME IN THE PINK FLAMINGO CLUB

Are you a recovering people-pleaser or someone healing from constant self-sacrifice who feels untethered in everyday moments as you relearn how to love yourself AND others and show up as your truest "pink flamingo" self in every area of life?

The Pink Flamingo Club is a safe practice space and community to be. It is currently the only way to work with me personally for the foreseeable future.

Click here to fly into the Pink Flamingo Club 

"In just a few short months, I have found witness to my experience,[and] the realization that I'm not alone. I have found the courage to look into...the deep, dark corners and find a way to look at those emotions, look at the person that I've allowed myself to become, and honor the reasons that I became that way, in a way forgive myself and really be proud of myself for developing strength and resilience...  And so, now I feel that I can take on every day. Now I feel like I have a much more pure outlook on my future. I have more confidence in the woman that I want to be in, how I show up in relationship with other people, in relationship with myself, and I look forward to a future that is going to be filled with certainty & a safety that's coming from really myself and my faith, knowing that God is there to protect, to love, to forgive, to give me ideas, to help shape me into the woman that He really destined me to be according to His plan. So if any of this resonates, I would say wholeheartedly, come to one of our monthly meetups and have the experience." 

— AN