being willing to look foolish to others. They've taken it everywhere.
One of my favourite parts of the day is hearing Jeremy randomly talk about "POM-POMS."
It started when God told me to start celebrating my wins by physically doing something I felt ridiculous doing. So, I pretended I had invisible
pom-poms and waved them around. (Thanks to Nikki Bradley for gifting me pom poms as a client years ago).
Over time that silly practice became fundamental to my self-honouring love routine.
Fast-forward:
Now, it’s the thing that Jeremy and I do to celebrate our mutual wins. Sometimes, I randomly hear him talk about my “pom poms” tradition on his client calls.
The people in my community do it too. When I started Pink Flamingo Club, of course, I introduced the practice to my pink birdies
who needed to master celebrating their wins and being willing to look foolish to others. They've taken it everywhere - celebrating wins in WhatsApp groups, in business meetings, with their kids, etc.
Who knew that one act of obedience - looking stupid to celebrate myself - would become something fundamental to people recovering from self-sacrifice?
You see… what you may not realise is that refusing to acknowledge and celebrate your wins contributes to self-abandonment.
When you are always on to the next thing and trying to meet the next standard of success…
When your inner critic loves to disqualify your wins by telling you it’s not a big deal or doesn’t count because “it’s not big enough, perfect enough, or fast enough.”…
Do you know what positions you to stop second-guessing every decision and constantly feeling like you're not enough?
Being your personal cheerleader. Pausing to celebrate your wins. Pausing to tell yourself “Well done” as an acknowledgement of your accomplishment.
Celebrating your wins is an act of self-stewardship and love.
That’s how you build evidence that the things you do are enough. (That’s different from saying “you’re enough” cuz that’s not about doing, that’s about knowing who and whose you are).
My point? Stop denying yourself the very acknowledgment you crave from others. Silence your mean inner critic who believes “progress doesn't
matter, only perfection does”.
Be someone who witnesses yourself, and as much as you witness and celebrate others. Wave the invisible pom-poms. Yell “pom poms” out loud. Let yourself feel foolish for a moment because acknowledging your wins is part of honouring yourself.
Your Pink Flamingo Dare:
Today, celebrate one win out loud. Say it. Write it. Wave invisible pom-poms if that's your thing. Notice the thoughts and feelings that come up when you do.
With pink flamingo love,
Chanel
How To Work With Me:
1. GET MY BOOK
Order my book In Search of the Pink Flamingo: Ditch the Expectations of Others, Own Your Voice, and Be Your Unusual Self
"I've been called vocal my whole life, but not once did I ever feel like my voice belonged to me. I fell in love with myself and who I can be while reading this book. I found myself
crying, contemplating things I've gone through and finally being at peace with several parts of my story. I am finding my pink flamingo – I found her in the pages of this book and so can you."
— KH
2. WORK WITH ME IN THE PINK FLAMINGO CLUB
Do you ever feel like you've outgrown your old self-sacrificial self, but you don't know how to live as your truest self yet - the person who aligns with God and loves others without losing yourself in the everyday
situations and relationships?
The Pink Flamingo Club is your safe haven to master the skill of confidently show up as your truest God-aligned "pink flamingo" self. It is the only way to work with me personally for the foreseeable future.
"In just a few short months, I have found witness to my experience,[and] the realization that I'm not alone. I have found the courage to look into...the deep, dark corners and find a way to look at those emotions, look at the person that I've allowed myself to become, and honor the reasons that I became that way, in a way forgive myself and really be proud of myself for developing strength and resilience... And so, now
I feel that I can take on every day. Now I feel like I have a much more pure outlook on my future. I have more confidence in the woman that I want to be in, how I show up in relationship with other people, in relationship with myself, and I look forward to a future that is going to be filled with certainty & a safety that's coming from really myself and my faith, knowing that God is there to protect, to love, to forgive, to give me ideas, to help shape me into the woman that He really
destined me to be according to His plan. So if any of this resonates, I would say wholeheartedly, come to one of our monthly meetups and have the experience."
— AN
THE PINK FLAMINGO WAY: “Love God. Love YOU. Love Your Neighbor.” (Matt. 22:36-39)