, What if you could want and have something simply because you want it, not because it’s practical, reasonable, or beneficial to others?

Storytime:

Years ago, I was walking in Costa Rica when I saw a man on a horse.

I remember thinking: "I've never ridden a horse. I would like very much to ride a horse. It would be so nice to ride a horse while I'm here."

My logical mind immediately dismissed it. I did not have the money for that short of indulgence. How would that even happen? So, I dismissed the desire.

Weeks later, the Lord nudged me to get up and go for a walk. I resisted for a couple moments and then decides to go.

As I left my apartment, it started drizzling. I started to turn back because I didn't want to walk in the rain. I heard God clearly, "Go up the road."

I walked up the road in the drizzle until He told me to stop. Then I sat on a rock until He told me to turn around and walk back the way I came from.

By the time I walked back down, it was raining harder. When I came to a shop, He told me to stop.

Of course, I was puzzled. Why are we doing this?

Here's why....

That's the night I met the man who owned the horse I'd seen weeks before. We talk with the help of Google Translate and my broken Spanish.

During our conversation, he asked if I liked horses. Of course I said yes!

That evening as it rained, I got to see and pet a horse for the first time in my life. He then invited me to ride that horse on the following Sunday.

Translation: God cares about my needs. AND He cares about my desires and wants.

Once I got that picture, there was no going back.

If God cared that much about my wants and desires, I had to care about my wants and desires as much as I cared about my needs. It wasn't either/or. I could have both.

In fact, in order to truly pour into yourself AND your neighbor... To love your neighbor AS yourself is to know that your wants and desires matter as much as your needs.

That's why in the Pink Flamingo Club, we don't focus on setting boundaries or giving you a hundred rules to stop you from being the strong one who is always pouring....

We start with something radically different.

We start with you admitting what you actually want (even the things you stopped hoping for a long time again). Not just what you need or what others need from you.

Then we equip you to see daily how God loves you and cares about the desires of your heart (even if He sometimes need to refine or delay them).

Because the simple truth is...

You can't truly love your neighbor AS yourself if you don't know what loving yourself even looks like.

You can't pour from your overflow if you've never given yourself permission to even be filled.

And you definitely can't honor God with your life when you constantly gave yourself the bare minimum and have no clear picture of how much He cares about your wants and desires too.

The Club is the space to to witness others and be witnessed as you take off the mask around what you want and desire.

It's the space where the dream you've been pushing down gets permission to breathe again. It's where you learn that wanting something simply because you want it isn't selfish. It's human. It's how God designed you.

It's also where you learn to hold your desires without desperation. Where you practice expressing your wants without needing to control outcomes and people. Where you build the emotional, identity and relational capacity to navigate the space between asking and receiving.

Because when you master that skill, you position yourself to pour into others without emptying your yourself or going around with a half-filled cup.

Ready to stop dismissing your desires and start living from overflow...so you love and pour into others without depleting yourself?

Join the Pink Flamingo Club and get the live practice ground you've been missing. Reply "pink" for the deets. 
 

Your Pink Flamingo Dare:

Give yourself one thing you want today. No second-guessing or trying to tell yourself why it's illogical or impractical.

With pink flamingo love,

Chanel

P.S. Pic: Me riding a horse for the first time in Costa Rica...because God gave it to me.

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"In just a few short months, I have found witness to my experience,[and] the realization that I'm not alone. I have found the courage to look into...the deep, dark corners and find a way to look at those emotions, look at the person that I've allowed myself to become, and honor the reasons that I became that way, in a way forgive myself and really be proud of myself for developing strength and resilience...  And so, now I feel that I can take on every day. Now I feel like I have a much more pure outlook on my future. I have more confidence in the woman that I want to be in, how I show up in relationship with other people, in relationship with myself, and I look forward to a future that is going to be filled with certainty & a safety that's coming from really myself and my faith, knowing that God is there to protect, to love, to forgive, to give me ideas, to help shape me into the woman that He really destined me to be according to His plan. So if any of this resonates, I would say wholeheartedly, come to one of our monthly meetups and have the experience." 

— AN