Years ago, as I prayed desperately for provision and community.

The Lord said something to me: "Chanel, don't you realize that people are my hands and feet in the earth? You're literally blocking the blessings and provision I made for you if you refuse to receive from others or ask for support. You're always pretending you don't need anything and talking about not wanting to owe anyone anything."

He reminded me how much I love giving. How I feel when I give. Then He said something that hit me to my core, to this day: "When you refuse to accept the gifts and support, I've sent you, it's almost like you're spitting in My face."

Mic drop. Argument done.

, that's what you do every day in the moments when...

Someone offers: "Hey, can I help you with that?" And you say: "No, I've got it" - while drowning inside.

Or a friend says: "Let me treat you to lunch." And panic rises: Now I owe them. When will they expect me to return the favor?

Or you're struggling, and you KNOW you need to ask for help... but the words won't come out. What if they think I'm weak? What if it becomes a tit-for-tat situation? What if they see me differently? God, it does not feel fair to receive from them.

That last one came up for me last night. Yet, I've spent years learning how to receive from others so I can love my neighbor as myself. And I've been blessed to receive some pretty incredible things from loved ones and strangers alike, as God wills it.

For example, apart from physical things: One of my dearest friends was God's gift to me. She walked with me through some of the darkest moments of my life and was integral to breakthroughs like me being freed from my porn and masturbation addiction (read about it in "In Search of the Pink Flamingo". 

God healed me of significant emotional wounds - wounds I'd never shared with anyone - because I obeyed Him and fearfully opened my heart to receive from her and allow her to pour into me.

It wasn't easy. I was terrified. But each day I took a step forward, listening and doing what the Lord told me.

Today, I have relationships with people who show up for me at the drop of a hat, without expecting anything in return because I practice what I'm teaching you now...

Anchoring into my truest "pink flamingo" identity. 

Acknowledging what I truly desire and aligning with God's desires for me. 

And being open to receive from others and ask for what I desire without fear or being attached to the outcome.

In The Pink Flamingo Club, we equip you with the tools and practice you need to establish firm foundations around this for the daily moments:

🦩 How to receive without guilt or feeling like you owe
🦩 How to ask for what you need without it being transactional
🦩 How to identify and express your desires
🦩 How to let people see you and handle the fears that come up
🦩 How to discern healthy giving from self-sacrificial knee-jerk reactions

We anchor you into your God-given "pink flamingo" identity that's not based on being superhuman - but on who you truly are.

And equip you with the tools to take bold pink steps daily alongside a flock (community) that helps you spot your blind spots and learn how to relate to people, not just serve them. So you love others without losing yourself.

🦩 Ready to learn how to receive consistently, not just give? Join the free Pink Flamingo Club Taster on Oct 15. 9 spots left. Secure yours today.

With pink flamingo love,

Chanel

P.S. You don't need permission to receive. You need practice doing it without guilt, without keeping score, and without the fear that it makes you weak. Practice in the Pink Flamingo Club.